Life is too short! That’s why I make it a point to try to enjoy the life I have been given. We only get one of them and we never know when the journey will end (Sorry, not trying to be debbie downer but I am trying to make a point…Also, poor Debbie, whoever she is). Moving right along…That being said, I like to have Fun.
Yes, I love to do fun things (as you can tell from the adventures I share here on my blog) but I also like to have fun when interacting with others. I like to joke around and even be sarcastic at times. I want to laugh and I want to make others laugh. Sometimes, I’ll even poke fun at myself BUT just because I do doesn’t mean that everyone gets to do it too. I Can Take It BUT Should I Have To?
While I can take a joke, I have found that people have taken that for granted. They assume I will laugh off whatever comes my way and some people cross the line. Their “joke” really isn’t a joke at all, at least not in my opinion, and it actually comes across as mean, hurtful and maybe even embarrassing if done in front of others.
Just because I am viewed as a tough cookie doesn’t mean that I don’t feel pain. Even if it isn’t being done intentionally (which I truly hope is the case) it doesn’t make it hurt any less. I don’t want to be the “Victim” but I also don’t want to be a “sucker”.
It’s worse when it comes from someone you don’t have that kind of relationship with.
It’s OK to joke around with one another but you should keep the following in mind:
- Joking back and forth requires a genuine friendship or relationship.
- It also requires an appropriate place and time.
- Know what the line is so that you don’t cross it.
- Don’t dish it if you can’t take it.
If you’re one who rags on yourself, consider not doing it. I feel like by doing so, I have indirectly given others the right to do it too. Plus, why give others more ammunition (I assume they will come up with things of their own, so why help them?).
I also struggle with over analyzing what people say and do so try not to do that or you will drive yourself CRAZY. I know I do.
Do you ever feel this way? Has it happened to you? Please tell me that I am not alone in this. If so, how do you you deal with this sort of thing?
