I am happy and proud to be the mom of 2 beautiful children but having a serious case of Mommy Guilt was not what I was expecting as I drove off towards my dad’s office, last Thursday, with a long list of Things To Do in an effort to catch-up (which by the way, didn’t happen).
In her excitement, my daughter mentioned that she was having a field trip on Friday, which apparently slipped my mind (one of the contributing factors). I had been on her other field trips so I was bummed for not being a part of this one (not that I could have attended since I was going to be at a conference, yet another factor) but that also made me realize that her Kindergarten school year was almost over…that’s when a bad case of “Mommy Guilt” set in…
“Had I not volunteered in her class enough?” “What if next year her teacher wasn’t as nice as the one she had now and didn’t let me volunteer at all?”, “Had I put Teach Me 2 Save before my family?” All these questions had my mind spinning and left me with a heavy heart.
Feeling of guilt in some way shape or form is natural as a parent (or at least I think so) but I hadn’t experienced “Mommy Guilt” like this before. It could have been because I had been in NY the weekend before or because I had attended an event Wed. evening or because I was planning on attending an event on Thursday, all day Friday and on Saturday during the day. Whatever the reason, I was troubled…so much so, that I opted to skip the festivities on Thursday evening (and I am glad I did).
While I want to be the best Mom I can be for my children in the little amount of time I have them for, I also realize that when they leave me (it breaks my heart just writing that) they will be off living their own life and I will be living mine which is why I should pursue and work towards building something that genuinely makes me happy.
It’s all a matter of balance, so that is what I am trying to achieve…I just hope I figure it out while they still want me around…LOL. Ever felt this way? How do you cope with it or prevent it?
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Leanette Fernandez is a happily married Latina who is a proud mom to 2 beautiful children and 1 fur baby (a goldendoodle named Finn), who loves living in beautiful South Florida (Miami/Ft. Lauderdale)! A graduate of the University of Miami with a Bachelor’s Degree in Psychology and Education, she started blogging back in 2010. Leanette is all about living her best life and encouraging others to find the fun in everything we do.
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Leanette,
A few thoughts….not because I know what you are going through or anything 😉
If you have mommy guilt, you ARE a good mommy because it means you are worried about doing it right.
And about that word balance…it took me years but I am finally figuring out that guess what, its a VERB.
Verbs are action words right? So balance is not some magical state to get to, its a process, a constant back and forth and adjusting.
Thanks Raquel!!! I appreciate it!!!!
I also have mommy guilt a lot but its oks as it shows I care just as it shows you care. I also want to turn this blogging thing into a full time job but when I try I feel guilty and so I am not sure what I should do. If you figure it all out would you Please share it with me.
Not sure I will ever figure it out Glenda but I will post it if I do…LOL